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Hey Jen, recently I've been through many changes in my life. I moved to a new location to start a different job and I'm sick of feeling like I'm still transition. I'm so sensitive all the time, like anything can set me off. I get anxious a lot too. What I am really craving is a sense of peace and stability. Any suggestions?
People like us, "The Sensitives", sometimes feel everything as if someone turned up the volume on our inner microphones, and we become vulnerable to picking up all the noise, hiss and uncomfortable feelings in and around us. When you feel like that, try and see it as an invitation to turn away from the chaos in your 'universe' and drop down into the quiet of your 'innerverse', a place deep inside yourself, beyond thoughts and feelings, trials and tribulations, that is enduring and unchanging. Imagine a soil from which all parts of our life grow from. Go there, and then drop an imaginary anchor.
Literally, I want you to close your eyes, take a deep breath and imagine dropping an actual anchor down into the earth. Imagine it going so far down that it hits a giant rock, as large as your new city. See your anchor wrapping itself around that rock, tightening and pulling you taught to the surface of the ground. Now, allow yourself to stay steady and connected to the Earth and her 'groundedness.'
Anxiety is a part of us that has a negative expectation of a future outcome. That part is actually a protector on auto-magic pilot, unconsciously programmed to make sure you don't get hurt by assuming the worst in order to 'prepare' you for not getting your needs met. Instead its robbing you of experiencing the excitement associated with having a positive expectation that you will get your needs met.
When you feel that way again (and you will), try and remind yourself that in your life, you have ALWAYS gotten what you needed (hence the new gig), but the journey to get there is allowed to be a lot smoother, comfortable and enjoyable. Pretend for a moment that your anxious part is a jittery little girl and go over to her and literally wrap your arms around her. Cuddle her and remind her that she is allowed to have a positive expectation of future outcomes and even get her own needs met!